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BREAKTHROUGH #4

10 Breakthroughs From
Ordinary To Extraordinary Love

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Breakthrough #4 - Commitment Isn't What You Think It Is

IN AN ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP…
YOU ARE COMMITTING TO EACH OTHER

IN AN EXTRAORDINARY RELATIONSHIP...
YOU ARE COMMITTING TO A LARGER CONTEXT

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LESSON DESCRIPTION

Ordinarily, it is incredibly important that our primary commitments are to each other. Most people will tell you that that is how to create a relationship that lasts. commitment to each other in the relationship is what creates the feeling of safety that allows for deeper intimacy isn't it?

If one partner is more committed than the other, this lack of balance will be the constant source of irritation and frustration in the relationship. Of course, if you are not committed to each other, then when something better comes along or things get hard, the relationship can simply dissolve.

In this lesson, we look deeply at the concept of commitment and discover what we want to commit to even more fully than each other. You'll learn that in an extraordinary relationship the connection between two people isn't maintained through a commitment to each other but is stabilized through something else even more powerful. You'll learn how this new commitment can actually help resolve some of the seemingly unresolvable conflicts around who gets whose way.

Share in the comments the most important purpose you hold for being in a relationship.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

Upgrade the unhealthy personal beliefs you might be carrying around and install a set of 10 evolutionary principals
Complete a thorough self-investigation and inventory of the ways you unconsciously support and undermine your partnership
Discover the 4th breakthrough of extraordinary relating
Learn what we can commit to other than each other that is even more powerful and stabilizing for the relationship
Explore how this new commitment can actually help resolve the seemingly unresolvable conflicts, like who gets whose way

CHALLENGE DAY#4

Reflect on whether you tend to have two poles (you and your partner) or three (you, your partner and your 3rd pole your relationship vision.  Reflect on how you tend to make decisions, especially the collaborative ones.   Your challenge this week is to:

Observe YOUR behavior, decisions, hopes, dreams, fears, and frustrations and determine the 1-3 values that are at the heart of those write them down and share them.
Observe YOUR PARTNER’S behavior, decisions, hopes, dreams, fears, and frustrations and determine their top 1-3 values.  Write them down and share them.
Take one decision you need to make and use both your values to make it together.

BONUS: Relationship Guide - The 8 Basic Do's & Don'ts

As a special bonus we are including this Relationship Guide - The 8 Basic Do's and Don'ts
 

There is a foundation of respect and common sense that must pervade all of your relationships if you want to create an extraordinary love. It doesn’t matter how well you waxed the car if you drive it off the road into a telephone pole.

These basic do’s, and don’ts, when violated, undermine any effort toward building an extraordinary love. The most powerful and expanding healings and epiphanies mean nothing unless these basics are handled.

“You know you are in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."

- Dr. Suess

REFLECTION QUESTION  | Answer the question(s) below

Why are you in a relationship? What is the context for relating with others?

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