Get answers to the most frequently asked questions so you can make
the best decision about whether the Evolving Love course is right for you.

  • q-iconWhat makes this course different than other courses on love and relationship?

    It’s important to point out that Evolving Love is the result of more than 10,000 hours of training, facilitating, and coaching in personal development, relationship, and love helping thousands of people.

    This course is designed to build new neural pathways and heart connections that can act as scaffolding to help prop you up when you need it most in your daily love life. You will be learning conversations and practices that relationship experts Bryan and Jennifer have created to help thousands of people experience lasting feelings of magic and true partnership.

    It is not a “neck-up” barrage of theories, it’s not advice given by therapists or coaches who aren’t actually in a healthy functional relationship you’d want to emulate, nor is it simplistic “relationship games” that may feel good at the time but have very little lasting impact.  Evolving Love is an evolutionary framework for how to interact and relate with the people you love.

    It’s Not Just About Feeling Understood.  Too many relationship courses begin and end with teaching you how to understand yourself with speech patterns that help your partner understand you. While this can be a pleasant experience, it’s usually not enough to bridge the emotional gap between people who are experiencing a block to love. In this course you’ll start seeing yourself and your relationship in an entirely new light revealing new connections to your partner that were previously blocked, hidden, or non-existent.

    Rise Above “The Muck” vs Diving Down To Solve It.  When two people are associated into the roles of victim and perpetrator, playing out the timeless drama of who hurt whom… no solutions exist. It can be seductive to focus on the sources of your “problems” and “figure out” why things feel so bad. Instead, we give you lifelines to self-regulate, call upon your own limitless emotional and energetic resources and rise above the stories that are upsetting you and blocking your path to love.

    Learn From Real People Who Have A Passionate, Evolutionary Partnership.  We think you should be very picky about your teachers. Make sure that you really want to duplicate the results that they have in the areas you’re learning about. During the course, you’ll get to see inside our love relationship: You’ll witness how we handle conflict, sex, attraction, purpose, children, money, commitment, and all the conversations that can be tricky for most relationships. You are not just learning about concepts, you are soaking in the experience and day-to-day practice of real life love evolutionaries.

  • q-iconIs there a guarantee? What is your refund policy?

    This program has the power to profoundly change your life forever. That’s not hyperbole — that’s based on results from our students who have implemented even a small fraction of what they learn in this course.

    What we can guarantee is that you will be in an incredible online environment with a group of people earnestly invested in healing love facilitated with utmost care, discernment, and love in order to help you rewrite your ‘relationship DNA’ and begin to break through some of the patterns that are holding you back from embodying your ideal love story. Of that we can be sure…of the rest, it’s all really based on what you decide to bring to the course. We encourage you to take accountability for the quality of your experience and gleaning the maximum amount of value that is meaningful to you.

    We currently have a 3-day cooling off period from the date of purchase during which time you can request in writing to get 100% of your money back. Participants must notify us via email to or in writing sent to Evolving Love 23 Regulus Ct Alameda, CA 94501 on or before the refund date in order to be eligible explaining that you are electing to drop the Course and are requesting a refund.  After the refund period, all remaining payments are due.

    Canceling Your Enrollment After the 3 Day Cooling-off Period:  We want you to be satisfied with your purchase but we also want you to give your best effort to apply what you are learning in the course. We offer a 30-day refund period for purchases. However, in order to qualify you must complete the first 3 modules of the course and include in your correspondence, proof of completion of this coursework.  If you do not include the list the coursework listed below within the refund period, we will not be able to grant you a refund.

    Requirement 1: All lessons marked complete online in the first 3 Modules
    Requirement 2: A completed Love profile with a minimum of 3 responses
    Requirement 3: All quizzes completed for the first 3 Modules
    Requirement 4: All workbook exercises completed for the first 3 Modules (attached to your correspondence)
    Requirement 5: Tell us why this course was not a good fit for you. What did you expect that you did not get once inside the program?

    After day 30, all payments are non-refundable and you are responsible for full payment.

  • q-iconI am in really dire straits with my partner and am already seeing a therapist, do you think this course is appropriate for me?

    The short answer is yes. If you are in a relationship that’s having trouble, come to this workshop to rise above conflict and the patterns that create it and get step-by-step instructions on how to de-escalate and re-ignite your relationship into the love story it was meant to be. Maybe you sometimes feel frustrated, insecure, unseen/unheard, smothered, under-nourished, or not completely loved the way that you want. Maybe you’ve even decided these feelings are a “normal” part of relationships. Come to this workshop to rewrite your relationship DNA and break free from some of these patterns and with your partner you can find the hidden symmetries that keep you thinking your relationship is out of balance. Discover how you might be unintentionally leaking safety and trust out of your relationship. Learn to use conflict as an opportunity to connect and grow as you learn how to dismantle your projects and safely heal old hurts. There are some notable exceptions in cases of severe psychological or mental challenges, a history of physical or chemical abuse, and severe trauma which we would encourage and recommend getting 1:on:1 support for from a trained professional.

  • q-iconIs this course for people in relationships only? Can I come if I'm not currently in one?

    This workshop has some content and exercises designed for those in relationship but it also contains lots of valuable information that is relevant regardless of your relationship status. Anyone who wants practice with how to handle some of the difficulties that come up when are in a relationship will find the content in this course invaluable.

    It’s always the right time to address in yourself any patterns that might be playing themselves out in an unhealthy way in your relationship. This is true whether you happen to be single right now or in a committed partnership. If you are single right now, come to this workshop to learn how to create a conscious relationship right from the start. Come ready to unearth the blindspots and core patterns that are likely in the way from you finding true love and partnership. Learn how to heal insecure attachment whether you are an avoidant type who tends to run away or need space OR whether you are an anxious type that tends to cling and hold too tightly to love. Develop an evolutionary context for why you are in relationship to begin with that will inspire your future partner to want to take that journey alongside you.

  • q-iconI can't register now, will you be offering this course later?

    We are offering this course at an introductory discounted price.   We will be continuing to offer the program but can not guarantee that it will be offered at the same price….[add answer here about not procrastinating]

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  • q-iconIs this course right for me if I am in a brand new relationship?

    Absolutely. Budding new couples are very welcome and encouraged in the course.  We can’t think of a better way to start a relationship than to begin at the get go with the kinds of evolutionary conversations and practices you’ll get during this course. Taking a close look at the relationship DNA that had your previous relationships end is step one in creating a new relationship that doesn’t repeat that pattern.

  • q-iconHow do I convince my partner to do this with me?

    This is an important question. If you are currently in a relationship, you’ll likely want your partner in your corner and perhaps even doing the course with you.   As partners in life, in love, and in business we totally respect that financial decisions are often made in partnership. What we recommend is for you to think about and express to your partner the difference you feel this Evolving Love Course will make in your lives. How will a small investment of your time and energy lead to a whole new outlook on your life and your interactions? How it will improve your feelings about yourself? How it will improve your feelings about your partner? What new doors will open for you? And how all of that will contribute to a more fulfilling life.  Then sit back and just listen. If your partner would like to contact us to have an exploratory call they can schedule that call with us by click here Schedule an Call

  • q-iconIs there anything I should do to prepare for the course?

    Once you register, you’ll receive login instructions and will be able to begin Module 1.  The first couple lessons will give you an orientation to the course and will take you to our Relationship DNA Love Profile which is a 360-feedback survey that will asks questions about your current relationship patterns and history around love, sex, and relating.  You’ll also see questions which will help you get clear on what specifically you might want to focus on during the course.

    Fill this in honestly and thoughtfully and follow the instructions on the survey to have at least 3 or more people that you are closest to give fill it out as well to give you feedback on so that you end up with an invaluable and accurate Relationship DNA Profile.  We use this feedback not just from you, but from those that know you best, to triangulate what your most persistent relational patterns really are and how they are affecting those around you so we can take a deeper look at rewriting and resolving them in this course.

  • q-iconDo you offer any discounts? Is there a payment plan?

    We offer a $7 trial for 7 days where we give you access to the course at price anyone can afford because we know once you start the course you’ll see how valuable and comprehensive the material is.   After the 7 day trial, we offer a $20 discount for paying fir the course upfront or you can select a payment plan where you can pay in three small installments.

  • q-iconWhat if I decide to cancel part way through the course?

    There is a 3-day cooling off period during which time you can cancel and receive a 100% refund.  If life circumstances prevent you from participating in the course you’ll receive your money back with no questions and no hassle.  After that date, you can check out our 30-day refund policy after full payment of the course is due.

    Feel free to review the Participation Agreement for this course for more details

  • q-iconI'd like to find out more about getting 1:on:1 help. Can you tell me more about how that works?

    If you are asking the question it could be a good idea to explore getting additional 1:on:1 support. We’ve created an Align Your Love Life Session, which is a private 90 minute session with Bryan Franklin and Jennifer Russell that you can signup for prior to your participation in the event for an additional fee. During this session you will begin the process of understanding your current Relationship DNA and rewriting some of the unconscious patterns that could be unwittingly running the show in your relationship. We recommend combining these. After participating in the session and event you can explore with Bryan and Jennifer whether you’d like to continue to work with them 1:on:1. The event is short and in that time we can’t unwind and break through every relationship pattern that might be creating difficulties for you in your relating. Often getting some supportive on-going help to reinforce what you’ve learned and really have it live inside your relationship can make the difference. It is an incredibly powerful experience to have someone dedicated and on your team in support of you evolving love in your life. We believe that investing in the way you relate has a bigger impact on your quality of life than almost anything else you could focus on.

  • q-iconI can't afford it, what can I do?

    We’ve specifically priced this course at a very affordable rate to allow for people of nearly any income to join us. It’s our belief that an investment in the quality of your relating with others has a bigger impact than almost any other area you could spend your attention on.  We get it. We’d like to offer you a new way of thinking that about this that will change the way you relate to yourself around money.

    Instead of focusing on why you can’t have what you want, start focusing on HOW you can and what the cost of not investing in this area will be a few months or years from now? Calculate how many hours of repeated patterns, headaches, hurts, and disappointments it would take to facilitate this kind of change…it would certainly be worth way more than that.  Notice how much more empowering that is then feeling like you are trapped or don’t get to have what you desire. Focus on how you CAN. Next you can use a credit card to make the payment or can ask for the people in your life to help sponsor, loan, or gift you a ticket to come.

  • q-iconI'm already in a GREAT relationship and others come to me for advice. Is this course appropriate for me?

    If you are a couple in bliss, you are already committed to having the best relationship possible. Come and learn the conversations and practices that will continue to enhance your relationship and help it stay that way. We’ll teach you the distinctions that turn relationships from ordinary to extraordinary, and guide you as you co-create the evolutionary context to your relationship, up-level the way you relate and diffusing most conflict before it starts. Enjoy deep experiential exercises to keep your relationships hot, sexy, and nearly drama free. Come dialogue with us about your deepest questions surrounding love, sex, and intimacy and take on a deep consideration for your relationship that will take you into the next level of your development.

  • q-iconIs this course mostly for monogamous couples or is it also for people in open relationships?

    This course is appropriate for any particular orientation or relationship structure as we will be exploring concepts that are universal to being human and wanting to give and receive love.  We have a lot of experience coaching and counseling people in many configurations of relating and we have participated in many of these configurations ourselves and can bring real wisdom and direction to navigating these waters as any relationship style brings it’s own set of challenges.

  • q-iconDo you have any book recommendations to help me prepare?

    Here are some of our favorite books on love and relationship that you might want to get a copy of to read before or after the course:

    The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity by Steven Kessler: An incredible book that maps some of Wilhelm Reich’s observations about human development and core wounding patterns alonside the psychology of personality. During our deeper dive retreats we often give people copies of this book. It’s a gem!

    Gene Keys: Unlocking the Higher Purpose Hidden in Your DNA by Richard Rudd: Probably my favorite spiritual / relational treatise book of all time. This book is a blueprint of humanity’s evolution through the 64 shadows that we express into the 64 gifts that those shadows become as we evolve and integrate onward into the 64 Siddhic states that represent our next evolutionary journey into hypersapien. It’s incredible and the kind of thing you want to digest slowly a few pages at a time

    Love’s Hidden Symmetry: What Makes Love Work in Relationships by Burt Hellinger: Another book we’ve been deeply influenced by as Burt is considered the father of Family Systems and Family Constellations work. The title tells you that for every conflict that is seemingly ‘your pattern’s fault’ there is a hidden symmetry that is holding the dynamic in place. It’s incredibly dense and another book to be read slowly but it’s rich.

  • q-iconWhat kind of credentials do you have in teaching love and relationship? Are you a certified therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist?

    It’s important to point out that Evolving Love is the result of over 10,000 hours of researching, training, facilitating, and coaching in personal development, neurolinguistic programming, collaborative systems, family systems, attachment theory, integral theory, spiral dynamics, human development, cultural evolutionary theory, tribal circling technologies, sacred theater and much more which we’ve used to help thousands of people.

    We are not certified therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists. We are lovers first and foremost with a relationship that was built brick by brick as we discovered conversations, practices, models, and structures of relating first hand and through research with other experts and other couples whom we respect followed by working over nearly a decade formally and informally with a variety of individuals and couples as coaches, mentors, and guides. In addition we’ve been guest speakers on this topic at dozens of events, interviews, podcasts, telesummits, and courses. You can check out a few of those on our website.

    Our biggest credential, and in our minds the only credential of any meaning is the exquisite truth and beauty of our own relationship and the inspiration it’s served in so many people’s lives who’ve known us best. While we are not implying that we are done with growth in the area of love, sex, and relating, we are saying that we’ve discovered some incredibly useful distinctions and understandings along the way that we are devoted to giving to the people who we know and love as it is our belief that there is no greater work than healing love on this planet.

  • q-iconWhat do you cover in this course?

    The course contains 10 Modules, 155 Lessons, X Videos, X Workbooks & Exercises along with our Bonus Evolving Love Daily, Weekly, Monthly, Yearly Practices and weekly Office Hours on our Community Forum.

    Learn  the source code for how healthy, powerful, and passionate relationships work. Get a new, broader context for love, sex, intimacy as you work with Jennifer Russell on your specific relationship patterns.   What gives your hidden relationship patterns so much power over you is the fact that they are hidden.  If you fall into them, then you haven’t seen them in their full light.  

    You’ll learn:

    • How to rewrite your map of what is “love” and what is “unlove” to more accurately reflect reality
    • How to identify and rewrite one of your most persistent recurring patterns once and for all
    • The 10 foundational set of beliefs to go from an ordinary relationship to an extraordinary one
    • What it takes to participate in an evolutionary love relationship


    Check out the Evolving Love Course Details Page for more information about what each Module covers.

  • q-iconWhat if I grew up in a commune? What If I'm from Nebraska? What if my hair used to be brown but I died it blonde?

    We call this “Special Snowflake Syndrome,” where we believe something in our lives is so unique, nothing will ever help. At some point, you’re looking for an excuse not to join. Our desire is to show you that it’s not true, that it’s just an excuse that is likely to be holding you back from some of the things you really want most in your life. The mindset we recommend for anything that you are looking to learn is one of open curiosity and of actively finding the value and wisdom that’s there.  This can be the difference between thinking you have all the answers and then likely staying in the same place weeks, months or even years from now OR fully taking this opportunity to get every inch of value and having it change your trajectory and life forever.  The difference between these two experiences is always up to you! We’ve noticed life’s a lot more rich, evolutionary, and fun with the later than the former.

  • q-iconWho are your influences? What teaching or relationship models is this based on?

    Bryan Franklin and Jennifer Russell have co-created and facilitated over a decade of impactful transformational events.  They have incorporated the best of NLP, the human potential movement, family systems, attachment theory, collaborative systems, neuroscience, tribal circling technologies, spiritual practices and sacred theater into their work.

    Their work is unique and has added their own practices and content to the field of love.  Their influences include the work of Burt Hellinger, Carl Burcheit, Amir Levine, Steven Kessler, Annie Lalla, Eben Pagan, Allison Armstrong, David Deida, and Richard Rudd.

  • q-iconI'm super busy, how much time will it take, so that I can make sure to get the most out of it?

    This course contains the specific conversations, practices, and exercises designed to wake you up into a new way of relating which will begin to rewrite your relationship DNA so that you can embody your ideal love story.   This course will help balance you and make you feel whole

    There are 10 core modules of the Evolving Love curriculum, we release one module per week. Each module contains 6-10 individual  lessons plus corresponding workbooks and integration questions to help you integrate and apply what you are learning.

    Once the initial 10 weeks are complete and all content has been released, you’ll have access to the entire library of training materials inside the member portal and can revisit and review as often as you like.

    All you really have to do is show up once a week and begin each lesson.  The duration of these lessons vary but in general we recommend setting aside at least 30 minutes to an hour each week to complete the lessons from each module watching the videos, doing the exercises, completing the quizzes, and sharing your answers to our reflection questions.  We’ve kept each lesson bite sized and on average under 15 minutes to complete.

    If you decide to participate in the Evolving Love Circle, Bryan and Jennifer will be hosting live calls twice a month for one hour which you can join and get live help.  This is an opportunity for you to get more individual support.  These calls will be held every other Tuesday from 5:00 PM – 6:00 PM Pacific Time.

  • q-iconWill Evolving Love help me bring in the relationship I desire, and/or a better dating/sex life?


  • q-iconI’ve already done a lot of work on myself, and my life is pretty great already. Will Evolving Love go deep enough?


  • q-iconWhat kind of community and support can I expect?

    This is a powerfully supportive, exciting and memorable community to regularly engage with for sharing your experiences and getting real, loving support. Joining is totally optional but highly encouraged.

    You can post your questions, comments and experiences directly into the private course forum on the website and on our community Facebook group and we’ll regularly respond and reply to give you custom guidance in your process.

    In addition you can join the Evolving Love Circle to access live calls with either Bryan Franklin or Jennifer Russell where they give you individual support.  These are not just any old calls—these are inspirational, motivational, life-changing experiences, where you can ask any questions at all about the course or about love and relationship in general. Many people find these calls to be powerful and great for deeply connecting to like-minded evolutionaries.

  • q-iconI’m not sure the timing is right. Should I just wait until next year?


  • q-iconWhere does the course take place?

    Everything is online — no travel is required.  You have lifetime access to the course, so you can go through the materials each week as they’re released on the website, or you can slow things down and work at your own pace.

    All course materials, including streaming videos, downloadable MP3s, workbooks, and additional resources are within our online member portal on the website. You’ll also be able to ask questions, get feedback and connect with fellow Evolving Lovers online on our Facebook group and during our live calls if you join our Evolving Love Circle.

  • q-iconWhat is I have another question that is not answered here?

    You can ask that question right here on this page in the comments and our support staff will get back to you with a response.  We are here for you and love answering your questions so please feel free to ask as you are very likely not the only one with that question.

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