10 Breakthroughs From
Ordinary To Extraordinary Love
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IN AN ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP…
YOU HAVE A FIXED SELF AND
A FLEXIBLE COMMITMENT
IN AN EXTRAORDINARY RELATIONSHIP…
YOU HAVE A FIXED COMMITMENT
AND A FLEXIBLE SELF
Commonplace, ordinary views lead to having commonplace, ordinary relationships. In this lesson, we look at 10 such beliefs that seem like they make sense on the surface, but actually, strangle the magic out of what could otherwise be epic and lasting love affairs, and then offer a new, broader context for each that can serve as the pillars of an extraordinary love relationship.
For each pair, notice the part of you that wants to agree with the “ordinary” view, and then let yourself be expanded by the way extraordinary relationships are held.
In this lesson, we look at Breakthrough #1, where in an ordinary relationship we tend to have a fixed and more stable sense of self. We'll explore a different orientation which has you fixed on an entirely different place which makes it possible for you to continue to relate even as you are both growing and changing.
Share in the comments what happens for you when you imagine being completely changed by an evolutionary partnership? Is it scary? Is it exciting? Is their resistance and contraction? Is there adventure and expansion?
Choose 1 topic where you tend to have a fixed position especially if it creates tension between you and those you love. Notice how you tend to compare the positive aspects of your perspective with the shadow aspects of the opposite perspective. For 1 day let go of your position and really take on the opposite perspective. Your challenge is to ask yourself:
As a special bonus we are including this Relationship Guide - The 8 Basic Do's and Don'ts
There is a foundation of respect and common sense that must pervade all of your relationships if you want to create an extraordinary love. It doesn’t matter how well you waxed the car if you drive it off the road into a telephone pole.
These basic do’s, and don’ts, when violated, undermine any effort toward building an extraordinary love. The most powerful and expanding healings and epiphanies mean nothing unless these basics are handled.
“You know you are in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."
- Dr. Suess
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
What happens for you when you imagine being completely changed by an evolutionary partnership? Is it scary? Is it exciting? Is their resistance and contraction? Is there adventure and expansion?