In this lesson, we explore the 2nd layer of your automatic patterns which is the Behavior Layer. Here we find that there are three basic behaviors that nearly every pattern follows:
1) Self Sabotage & Self Abandonment
2) Complaint & Defense
3) Projection & Prejudice
Notice for a particular pattern which of these 3 behaviors is your most common reaction to being under stress. Share with us which behavior pattern is the one you most often see yourself doing in relation to the pattern you are looking to rewrite? What are the things you tell yourself to explain to yourself why you do these behaviors?
“The shadow is not a problem to be solved or an enemy to be conquered, but a fertile field to be cultivated. When we dig our hands into its rich soil, we will discover the potent seeds of the people we most desire to be."
- Debbie Ford
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
Which of these beliefs and presuppositions would make the biggest shift for you in how you think about your love life?