Imagine ending the complaint and defensiveness at the root of nearly every conflict! There is a path to permanently ending complaint and defensiveness, and in this lesson, we will show you the first steps down that path.
To end this persistent pattern, the first step is to be able to see and hear what is underneath each complaint and each defense. Otherwise, we just stay at the surface level and continue to repeat an unwinnable argument.
In this lesson, you will see and feel the loving messages that have been hidden in complaints and defensiveness all along.
Share below whether you are noticing complaint and defensiveness in your interactions - even the subtle versions. Could you imagine bringing something else instead? If so tell us how you might shift what how you are responding now.
“Ultimately it’s not with who, but when you choose to surrender."
- Lisa Citore
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
What do you notice about the complaint and defense pattern in your relationship(s)?