Getting the Most from Evolving Love
1 | Welcome To Evolving Love (6:00) |
1 | Set Yourself Up For Success (3:00) |
1 | What Is Evolving Love (10:29) |
1 | Your First Big Insight (5:03) |
1 | QUIZ: What Did You Learn In Module 1? |
Rewriting Your Patterns
and Breaking Bad
Repetitive Habits
1 | Why We Do What We Know Is Bad For The Relationship? (5:46) |
1 | Innies and Outies (Repressive & Reactive Patterns) (3:07) |
1 | Unhealthy Behaviors That We Can Stop (4:49) |
1 | Who's Pulling The Strings (5:57) |
1 | Freedom From The Victim Story (7:36) |
1 | It All Comes Down To This (1:33) |
1 | Unwinding Your Patterns (You Can Do It!) (13:05) |
1 | How To Make Good Habits Stick (5:57) |
1 | Knowing Yourself (And Your Partner) Completely (4:40) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 3? |
Resolving Conflicts
Permanently
1 | No More Complaining And Defensiveness For Us (7:42) |
1 | Resolve Your Conflicts Permanently (3:47) |
1 | 3 Mistakes People Make When Using This Process (7:07) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan And Jennifer's (Real) Conflict (11:53) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan Sees Jennifer's Perfection (9:00) |
1 | DEMO: Jennifer Sees Bryan's Perfection (11:41) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan Shares A Future Vision Of Jennifer (16:05) |
1 | DEMO: Jennifer Shares A Future Vision Of Bryan (7:26) |
1 | Lightning Fast Conflict Resolution For Couples (5:34) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 4? |
Resolving Conflicts Step-by-Step
1 | STEP 1: Which Conflict Would You Like To Resove Most? (4:19) |
1 | STEP 2: Writing Exercise - Finding Your Partner's Present Perfection |
1 | STEP 3: Get Ready To Be Your Best Self (2:32) |
1 | STEP 4: Practice Open Generous Listening (4:32) |
1 | STEP 5: See Your Partner's Perfection (3:09) |
1 | STEP 6: Transforming Your Complaints Into A Positive Vision For The Future (17:41) |
1 | STEP 7: Sharing Your Best Future Vision (5:24) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 5? |
There's More Than One Reason
for Conflict
for Conflict
1 | Anatomy Of Conflict: The More You Understand, The Smoother Things Can Be (2:06) |
1 | The Fights That Have Been Going On For Centuries (5:59) |
1 | The Unversal Patterns That All Couples Fall Into (3:48) |
1 | It's Not All About Your Childhood (But Some Of It Is) (4:26) |
1 | Power, Control, And Projection (9:34) |
1 | Why "Never Go To Bed Angry" Might Be Horrible Advice (3:30) |
1 | What To Do About Unmet Expectations And Unexpressed Needs (16:19) |
1 | Seeing Conflict With "Perfect Vision (11:34)" |
1 | The Main Theme Of Your Life Story (5:35) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 6? |
10 Breakthroughs
from Ordinary
to Extraordinary Love
to Extraordinary Love
1 | Breakthrough #1 - Defining Yourself Is Limiting Yourself |
1 | Breakthrough #2 - It's Not Supposed To Be Hard Work |
1 | Breakthrough #3 - You Might Be Making The Wrong Lists |
1 | Breakthrough #4 - Commitment Isn't What You Think It Is |
1 | Breakthrough #5 - All Your Parts Deserve Love |
1 | Breakthrough #6 - You Can't Measure Love |
1 | Breakthrough #7 - Bad Isn't Always Bad |
1 | Breakthrough #8 - Focusing On Happiness Doesn't Make You Happy |
1 | Breakthrough #9 - How To Really Love An Inner Child |
1 | Breakthrough #10 - Which Way Should You Be Facing? |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 7? |
Reignite Your Relationships
1 | The Deepest Reason To Be Together (12:17) |
1 | The 2 Mistakes People Make When Co-Creating A Future Vision (1:34) |
1 | Good Examples Of A Common Purpose (And Some Bad Ones Too) (3:14) |
1 | Who Gets Their Way (And Why) (2:19)? |
1 | Example Of A Relationship Purpose (3rd Pole) At Work (7:46) |
1 | Defining And Communicating Your Relationship's Purpose (19:21) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 9? |
Daily, Weekly, Monthly
Practices
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The First Light Practice (5:52) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Checkin Practice (7:57) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Think Three Times Practice (4:57) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Be Nice To Your Imaginary Friend Practice (3:15) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Attraction Gardening Practice (4:02) |
1 | Weekly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Energy Exchange (8:46) |
1 | Weekly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Bring New Creativity Practice (4:14) |
1 | Monthly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Consideration Exchange Practice (11:15) |
1 | Monthly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Undefended Request for Feedback Practice (12:50) |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Renewing Your Vows Practice (5:24) |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Shifting Your Narrative Practice (4:27) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 10? |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - A Special Invication For You |
Module 4
Resolving Conflicts Permanently
LESSON 6: DEMO: Jennifer Sees Bryan's Perfection
RESOURCES
LESSON DESCRIPTION
In this lesson, you'll witness Step Two of the "Perfect Vision" conflict resolution process. Now Jennifer sees Bryan as perfect in the present moment, and relaxes any sense that he is wrong for how he is thinking and feeling. See where this is easy for her and also where she may have some difficulty at first.
As with before, Jennifer is taking responsibility for her own judgments now by acknowledging that Bryan is not wrong for how he thought, felt, and acted. Even if those thoughts, feelings, and actions were painful for Jennifer, Bryan is not "bad" for having and doing them.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Jennifer sees Bryan's perfection in the conflict resolution process
Notice that she is drawing on her own experiences to form what she says, and is not just repeating what he has already told her
Notice how Bryan and Jennifer check in with each other to see if they are on track, and make adjustments depending on the answer
“Ultimately it’s not with who, but when you choose to surrender."
- Lisa Citore
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
What did you notice about how Jennifer spoke to Bryan?
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