1 | Welcome To Evolving Love (6:00) |
1 | Set Yourself Up For Success (3:00) |
1 | What Is Evolving Love (10:29) |
1 | Your First Big Insight (5:03) |
1 | QUIZ: What Did You Learn In Module 1? |
1 | Why We Do What We Know Is Bad For The Relationship? (5:46) |
1 | Innies and Outies (Repressive & Reactive Patterns) (3:07) |
1 | Unhealthy Behaviors That We Can Stop (4:49) |
1 | Who's Pulling The Strings (5:57) |
1 | Freedom From The Victim Story (7:36) |
1 | It All Comes Down To This (1:33) |
1 | Unwinding Your Patterns (You Can Do It!) (13:05) |
1 | How To Make Good Habits Stick (5:57) |
1 | Knowing Yourself (And Your Partner) Completely (4:40) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 3? |
1 | No More Complaining And Defensiveness For Us (7:42) |
1 | Resolve Your Conflicts Permanently (3:47) |
1 | 3 Mistakes People Make When Using This Process (7:07) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan And Jennifer's (Real) Conflict (11:53) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan Sees Jennifer's Perfection (9:00) |
1 | DEMO: Jennifer Sees Bryan's Perfection (11:41) |
1 | DEMO: Bryan Shares A Future Vision Of Jennifer (16:05) |
1 | DEMO: Jennifer Shares A Future Vision Of Bryan (7:26) |
1 | Lightning Fast Conflict Resolution For Couples (5:34) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 4? |
1 | STEP 1: Which Conflict Would You Like To Resove Most? (4:19) |
1 | STEP 2: Writing Exercise - Finding Your Partner's Present Perfection |
1 | STEP 3: Get Ready To Be Your Best Self (2:32) |
1 | STEP 4: Practice Open Generous Listening (4:32) |
1 | STEP 5: See Your Partner's Perfection (3:09) |
1 | STEP 6: Transforming Your Complaints Into A Positive Vision For The Future (17:41) |
1 | STEP 7: Sharing Your Best Future Vision (5:24) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 5? |
for Conflict
1 | Anatomy Of Conflict: The More You Understand, The Smoother Things Can Be (2:06) |
1 | The Fights That Have Been Going On For Centuries (5:59) |
1 | The Unversal Patterns That All Couples Fall Into (3:48) |
1 | It's Not All About Your Childhood (But Some Of It Is) (4:26) |
1 | Power, Control, And Projection (9:34) |
1 | Why "Never Go To Bed Angry" Might Be Horrible Advice (3:30) |
1 | What To Do About Unmet Expectations And Unexpressed Needs (16:19) |
1 | Seeing Conflict With "Perfect Vision (11:34)" |
1 | The Main Theme Of Your Life Story (5:35) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 6? |
to Extraordinary Love
1 | Breakthrough #1 - Defining Yourself Is Limiting Yourself |
1 | Breakthrough #2 - It's Not Supposed To Be Hard Work |
1 | Breakthrough #3 - You Might Be Making The Wrong Lists |
1 | Breakthrough #4 - Commitment Isn't What You Think It Is |
1 | Breakthrough #5 - All Your Parts Deserve Love |
1 | Breakthrough #6 - You Can't Measure Love |
1 | Breakthrough #7 - Bad Isn't Always Bad |
1 | Breakthrough #8 - Focusing On Happiness Doesn't Make You Happy |
1 | Breakthrough #9 - How To Really Love An Inner Child |
1 | Breakthrough #10 - Which Way Should You Be Facing? |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 7? |
1 | The Deepest Reason To Be Together (12:17) |
1 | The 2 Mistakes People Make When Co-Creating A Future Vision (1:34) |
1 | Good Examples Of A Common Purpose (And Some Bad Ones Too) (3:14) |
1 | Who Gets Their Way (And Why) (2:19)? |
1 | Example Of A Relationship Purpose (3rd Pole) At Work (7:46) |
1 | Defining And Communicating Your Relationship's Purpose (19:21) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 9? |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The First Light Practice (5:52) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Checkin Practice (7:57) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Think Three Times Practice (4:57) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Be Nice To Your Imaginary Friend Practice (3:15) |
1 | Daily Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Attraction Gardening Practice (4:02) |
1 | Weekly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Energy Exchange (8:46) |
1 | Weekly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Bring New Creativity Practice (4:14) |
1 | Monthly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Consideration Exchange Practice (11:15) |
1 | Monthly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - The Undefended Request for Feedback Practice (12:50) |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Renewing Your Vows Practice (5:24) |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - Shifting Your Narrative Practice (4:27) |
1 | What Did You Learn In Module 10? |
1 | Yearly Practices For An Extraordinary Relationship - A Special Invication For You |
Module 7
10 Breakthroughs From Ordinary To Extraordinary Love
Breakthrough #2: It's Not Supposed To Be Hard Work
RESOURCES
LESSON DESCRIPTION
Ordinarily, anyone who’s had a serious relationship knows that relationships are hard work. If you don’t “do the work” of staying connected and navigating each other’s triggers and shortcomings, your relationship will atrophy and eventually fall apart.
They are hard work because we tend to attract the people as partners who know how to push our buttons the best, and over time, even the smallest flaws in our partners can become difficult to be with because of repeating patterns.
In this lesson, we look at Breakthrough #2 as a totally different way to view our relationship. We'll explore how when you relate to relationship as work, you are bringing in the associations of burden, obligations, and all manner of heavy and unpleasant things and how those in extraordinary relationship relate to their relationships instead.
Share in the comments what privileges you have because of the relationships you are in that you are grateful for.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
“You know you are in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."
- Dr. Suess
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
What privileges do you have because of the relationships you are in that you wouldn't have otherwise?
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