In this lesson, we explore the anatomy of conflict from the sixth layer (+1), our unexpressed needs and unmet expectations. At this layer of the conflict, we are beginning to communicate a predominantly positive response and move from reactivity and repression to openly sharing our needs and expectations. Conflict at this layer has a built-in mechanism to resolve itself.
If you doubt that someone cares about your needs, you are likely to minimize those needs and even hide them from those that might be able to meet them in order to avoid feeling rejected. f you doubt that someone cares about your expectations, you may be hesitant to get agreement around those expectations in order to avoid feeling rejected.
We'll explore how these needs and expectations exist in present time, which means you are usually conscious of the conflict. We'll look at how you can identify what's happening at its source to bring more of your resources to bare to resolve at this layer.
Share in the comments below an unexpressed need or unmet expectation that would be beneficial to share. What are the unexpressed needs or unmet expectations of the people you interact with most?
“Emotional Maturity means that your awareness operates even during the most profound emotional states."
- Richard Rudd
REFLECTION QUESTION | Answer the question(s) below
Recognizing this layer: What are the unexpressed needs or unmet expectations of the people you interact with most?